Bystander stuff that may help the classroom teachers:
Bullying situations usually involve more than the bully and the victim. They also involve bystanders—those who watch bullying happen or hear about it.
An important new strategy for bullying prevention focuses on the powerful role of the bystander. Depending on how bystanders respond, they can either contribute to the problem or the solution. Bystanders rarely play a completely neutral role, although they may think they do.
Some bystanders . . . instigate the bullying by prodding the bully to begin.
Other bystanders . . . encourage
the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments that further stimulate the bully.
And other bystanders . . . join in the bullying once it has begun.
Most bystanders . . . passively accept bullying by watching and doing nothing. Often without realizing it, these bystanders also contribute to the problem. Passive bystanders provide the audience a bully craves and the silent acceptance that allows bullies to continue their hurtful behaviour.
Bystanders also have the power to play a key role in preventing or stopping bullying.
Some bystanders . . . directly intervene, by discouraging the bully, defending the victim, or redirecting the situation away from bullying.
Other bystanders . . . get help, by rallying support from peers to stand up against bullying or by reporting the bullying to adults.
Examining the Effects on The Bystander
Why don’t more bystanders intervene?
They think, "It’s none of my business."
They fear getting hurt or becoming another victim.
They feel powerless to stop the bully.
They don’t like the victim or believe the victim "deserves" it.
They don’t want to draw attention to themselves.
They fear retribution.
They think that telling adults won’t help or it may make things worse.
They don’t know what to do.
Bystanders who don’t intervene or don’t report the bullying often suffer negative consequences themselves. They may experience:
Pressure to participate in the bullying
Anxiety about speaking to anyone about the bullying
Powerlessness to stop bullying
Vulnerability to becoming victimized
Fear of associating with the victim, the bully, or the bully’s pals
Guilt for not having defended the victim
Preparing Children to Become Helpful Bystanders
Adults can prepare children to become helpful bystanders by discussing with them the different ways bystanders can make a difference, and by letting them know that adults will support them, if and when they step forward. Adults can also provide examples of how helpful bystanders have shown courage and made a difference in real-life situations and in their own experiences.
For the purposes of policies on bullying prevention and intervention, school boards will use the following definition of bullying:
Bullying is typically a form of repeated, persistent, and aggressive behaviour directed at an individual or individuals that is intended to cause (or should be known to cause) fear and distress and/or harm to another person’s body, feelings, self-esteem, or reputation. Bullying occurs in a context where there is a real or perceived power imbalance.
You will be hearing much more from The Safe School Action Team in the near future. Thank you
Safe Schools Action Team
-Natalie D'Elia (Gr 8 French, Student Success)
-Terry Labelle(Parent Team Member)
-Drew Scott (Police Officer, D.A.R.E)
-Heather Dawe (C.Y.C)
-Cynthia Lindsay (Public Health Nurse)
With Partnership help from:
-Tim Flynn (Tech Support)
-Katy Nott (JK/SK,Tribes)
Gordon Ferguson (Gr 8/Physical Education Instructor, Leadership Council)